Perna,
I have struggled with this as well. I have only had the guts to actually disagree with T once or twice and then, not as forcefully as he would like me to. I find it very hard to challenge him, but that's one of my issues, getting in touch with my anger. I tend to do more of what you do and visit one of my other "compartments" so i don't have to deal with the anger issue. Not such a good thing, I'm afraid.
Secret,
Why don't you have input? I don't understand that at all and it bothers me, or is it just that you feel like you don't have input? I think it's important to feel that we can tap our own power and use it. This is something I have been working on but have not yet been successful at.
Sister