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Originally Posted by CANDC
Sex without intimacy as I define it has been very unsatisfying for many people I talk to. My opinion is that sex is not the deepest human drive, but to find love, acceptance and compassion and intimacy and trust.
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Best. Paragraph. Ever.
Since my wife has been emotionally disconnected these past 6 months, any sex we have is ... well it's just downright awful. The key to good sex is the emotional intimacy that CANDC is talking about.
Obviously there's a LOT going on here, but I would wager your sexual issues are only a symptom. I'm betting you've got internal walls put up so high that nobody is getting in and it's that fear of emotional vulnerability (nobody how badly you want to experience it) that's stopping things. (Related to the gender issues you talk about.)
As you spend more time working on you and becoming more comfortable and compassionate with yourself I bet things will open up for you.