Is this correct behavior or a character flaw? People will say nasty things, take shots at you and after that they act like nothing was ever said. Then they expect you to act friendly towards them. I don't get it. It's prevalent in the workplace and everywhere. It's like being two-faced. How should you act/react? I have never taken shots at people. I always keep any thoughts to myself. If anyone can explain it or have any relevant stories that would be great to hear. (I've had supervisors/bosses take very personal shots at me at work for little to no reason (w/o being a bit constructive) then they expect you to show them full respect - and this was while working for Military as a civilian. I can never make sense of it for yrs afterward.) Another thing is that Psychiatrists and/or Psychologists really don't like getting into discussions about situations like this and help you make sense of them.