I was only ever spanked three times as a child. One time was a couple of pops on the hand and the other times were a few taps on the booty. I think I turned out okay. I definitely know that the spankings established a sense of respect for my mom but fear for my dad. i tended to be more disciplined with my mom and more honest and respectful with her. With my dad he tended to be abusive so the one time I got a spanking from him just put fear into me.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a well intended hand, but I can see how the lines get blurry. With my niece I've only ever spanked her twice when she was really out of control.