Hi, my husband and I have been having some issues since March. He attacked me that month, but it's rare that he ever has in our 14-yr marriage. He threw a chair at me and later was emotionally abusive. He went to anger therapy but I think he quit after a few months. We have a 6 mo old btw, and a 9yo. I also was abused as a child. Anyway, recently his temper has been flaring again. I admit I do snap at him sometimes because I'm so exhausted and annoyed that he doesn't help out much with the baby. I also feel very controlled by him. Efriends say I should let it all go and make our marriage work. My therapist encourages that as well. But sometimes he gets a little physical with our 9yo. He adores our children and I don't want to break up our family but these small incidents, which he makes excuses for, disturb and worry me, maybe overly so because of my history. Recently he was frustrated and grabbed my son by the lapels and pulled him forward and abruptly pushed him backward - not a big push but enough that I called him on it privately. He said he wouldn't do it again. Last night he was angry with my son for being rowdy on the sofa while we were on the phone with my dad and he pushed him backward abruptly in the front of the neck with his hand. It looked to me like he was whacking my son, not just pushing, and my son leaned forward, stunned, and held his neck a few seconds, not saying anything. My husband said to me that he "just pushed him a little." It didn't look like that to me but my husband was insistent in his explanation. Am I overreacting by being upset and concerned? This is really bothering me. I'm afraid to talk about it with my therapist because she might report it and my 9yo would be taken from us. :-(