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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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Sorry to hear that. At least you told her how you felt. She obviously didn't respect your boundaries. I had a similar situation happen with me to where this woman would text me to early in the day and would bombard me with texts if I didn't answer her back right away.
I had to let her go since I told her not to text me so early or at all as I hate texting, but she didn't listen, so I let her go. And then she had the nerve to call me rude and selfish, OK, whatever! This was coming from a woman who'd talk non-stop about herself and her problems, ugh!
Maybe that's why one of my friendships just ended. Maybe she thought I was expecting her to spend more time with me then she wanted to? If so, she should've made that much more clear.
I did give this woman plenty of space, but to make a long story short, she really hurt me badly by making a promise to watch my cats when I was visiting family over Thanksgiving and then she never bothered to call me back or email me.
Needless to say, I'm done with her no matter what. I told her that on her v.m. She was to full of herself, to selfish, and very incosiderate. Did you give your friend a fair warning before ending your friendship? Sometimes you need to remind peolpe of your boundaries and need for personal space.
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Sorry to hear that your friend treated you like that. Letting you down about your cats? That would have made me quit that friendship, for sure! And yes, I did tell my ex friend many times, that I needed lots of down time after socializing. Because of my physical limitations, I would get exhausted and need to rest for a couple of days before being social again. She chose to ignore that and continue to pressure me to hang out with her. Her teen aged daughter even urged her to let me alone so that I could adjust to my wonderful new romance. I mean, I can be pretty clueless about certain social constructs, but she really amazed me when she seemed to be wanting me to put my new boyfriend off, in order to hang out with her. And when I did make special time for her, she would complain that I seemed different, and repeatedly ask if I was mad at her! It was as if she resented me for being in love.
