Don't tell friends you are hoping to "find" a husband. I got into a dialog with coworker friends and said I wasn't trying to find a husband because he wasn't lost and our boss instantly quipped, "Well, if he isn't lost then he sure is running like hell!" Good friends, yes? :-)

Seriously, I was 34 when I met my husband and 39 when we married. See if you can cultivate a sense of curiosity over what is going to happen next in your life? Work toward education, social, work goals and stuff but deciding and treating it like an adventure helped me get over rough patches. When you are in a bad place, in a well, it is hard to see the "bounty" out there, the sky but that doesn't mean it is not there, just that one cannot see it at the moment. When we are imagining the future, we can't really, because we're stuck with our current state that we're imagining from. So, what we imagine is all pretty much our thoughts and we can create whatever story we feel like! I use to read a lot of fantasy (like Harry Potter, for example) and "young adult" books in my 20's and 30's, adventure stuff and the character's feelings and struggles helped me a great deal with mine. Find a series by Lloyd Alexander or Madeleine L'Engle or someone you like and see if it can't give you ideas for your own life and what you'd like? Sometimes it was enough to just let it all keep me company as I sloughed through the mud, knowing it was not all mud out there and eventually I'd probably get to the green pastures and everything would be okay?