Hello marjan: Personally I would have to say that this guy sounds like BIG trouble. There's a saying: "If you want to see which way the bullet is going, look down the barrel of the gun." Just re-read what you wrote here about him & you can see your future if you stay with him. You can't change him. And on top of that I would be concerned that a guy like this could turn out to be physically abusive as well.

If you want to have kids so badly have you considered adoption, or perhaps in-vitro fertilization? Of course, in either of these cases you'd be a single parent. But, with the man you describe, I'm afraid you'd end up being one anyway. Plus you'd have all of the problems he himself would create for you. I'm sorry to be so negative about this. I hope I'm wrong. But, from what I read in your post, I don't see much to be positive about with regard to this man. My best wishes to you.