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Originally Posted by Partless
Petra, lol, only in therapy!
Sometimes in my life I've wondered if I can just keep somebody an ideal for myself without knowing more about them and ruining the fantasy. I do that sometimes but other try to fight that by reminding myself that everybody's human and has all sides to them and are not an angel...what was that book, everybody poops? Lol. Yeah something like that...
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I think about this "fantasy ideal" all the time
... I mean both the fantasy and the idea he is a fantasy... and I wonder does anyone truly know anyone else? Can anyone ever completely know anyone else? To some extent everyone is just a fantasy of mine, I have limited info, I am just putting together pieces. Even people I should know really well like my own parents are kind of mysteries to me. The longer I've known my therapist the more I've learned about him, both from observation and the fact he's slowly self disclosed. I'm sure an expert would say I'm idealizing, but when I think of him I really do see him in a dirty house, with imperfect kids, and an imperfect life, and I just don't care. I love him and I love his imperfections and flaws. It is the damndest thing really.