I don't know of anyone else on this board who shares my thoughts on this subject better than you! If we are kindred spirits can you pass me some of the assertiveness?

I think I'm flawed because I am neutral towards my T. A lot of people have a love/hate relationship and mine can hardly be called cordial. Businesslike, mutual respect, tolerance, okay. Like, love, not so much.

Maybe it's because I'm a short-timer or too guarded or emotionally numb, or maybe she isn't someone I could hold in deep regard no matter what our relationship?