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Now in terms of where we stand, I really don't know. I get the sense from her that she's not interested in getting back together into a relationship beyond friendship. Or perhaps she's waiting to see how things play out over the course of the next couple of months, and see how things progress with the relationship with my Mom before considering entering into a relationship with me again. I honestly don't know.
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Do you want to find out?
I imagine that you typically don't explore things much with your mom, lest she blow up at you.
I've been there. That long-bred tendency to keep my ideas to myself, and not move ahead with something I might want, lest she get upset, carried over into my regular life, for many years, until I became aware of it and addressed it.
As a result, right now you are allowing yourself to wonder about potential gf's intentions. Don't just
wonder about something so central to your heart. In my view the better approach is to talk to her. "I've been wondering if we could try again, to explore. How does that sound to you?"
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I'm not sure if that was a mistake or not, not to invite myself.
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This is really a very telling comment. You would not be
inviting yourself, as if it is an offense to express some interest in something that has been put in right in front of your nose several times.
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But she did mention the office Christmas party again, and that she's going alone, and how she hates going to these things by herself. And she said it more than once. I wasn't about to invite myself, especially how the rest of the evening played out with the conversations we had just had. It really did feel like if she wanted me to go with her, should would have asked me, but she didn't.
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She must wonder how many times she has to mention that party.
"You've mentioned the Christmas party several times, and how you hate to go alone. If you are willing, I'd love to be your escort/accompany you/go with you."
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