Red Flag. Personally, if Mrs. Webgoji went to someone else regularly for emotional support then should would get to full time. Marriage is a union between two people and they should support each other fully. If someone else is needed for that support (again, regularly ... everyone has a things once in a while), then that union is broken.

Sounds like you've got a triangle to me and that ex-hubby is the emotional side and you're ... well without that emotional intimacy you're holding down the couch. It sounds like an emotional affair, but since he's gay then there's obviously not going to be the physical side.