My T has demonstrated a LOT of patience with me that I know he doesn't always display with other patients or coworkers (we have some mutual aquaintances, small town yo!). He also has put effort into slowing down with me. He's apologized and has never reacted in the negative ways that I always expect him to. He shares some bits and pieces from his own life which I know he doesn't do often. He rewords things that I say or that he observes and it makes sense, so I know he's learned and figured me out more than he did when we started. We can joke around a bit. Those sorts of things make me more comfortable with him.