As I´m looking for a new T I spend quite some time looking them up, basic facts about their education if they share this on their websites and I also use search tools as "birthday.com" and similar to know if they are married, single, has their own practise, their age and so on.

Some things are just for my own curiosity and some, like their education is of course of much value to be able to choose the right T, if that´s even possible.

One thing that struck me several times is that there´s a clear majority of them who live by themselves (I live in a large town and searches mainly to find a female T around 50 years of age or above) and you can then guess that many of them also is divorced or has split up from a relationship.

To me, it´s quite a surprise. I expected my former T to be married and living the "happy life" in a luxorious house with a husband but no. When I looked her up after being terminated I found she lives by her own in a flat. It´s situated in a beautiful area but still.

Another thing is that when reading a T also offers couples therapy you can almost be sure they suffered from some kind of separation, relation problems and so on. It´s quite telling as you can´t work as a couples therapist if you never been in a relationship yourself.

I think these questions around T:s themself are interesting, it gives you a good perspective on the therapeutic relationship. I mean, many of us, including myself obviously often imagines our T:s to have perfect or at least very good lifes. Many of them do of course, but not all and not always.

Even if that´s not strange at all, I found out another T just experienced her husband dying in a heart attack but she kept her practise and she´s still in the business. It´s so many things you don´t expect about them when sitting there next to them.

It would be interesting hearing about other stories, did you find anything unexpected about your T?