A few things for me.

First, I basically made her important from day 1. It's complicated to explain how. Plus, I wrote out my history and gave it to her day 1.

But what made the difference was when I felt betrayed by her last Christmas. I didn't want to see her again. She hurt me really bad and she knew that. I did go to our next session. When she walked out I couldn't even look at her. I got up and she walked straight to me. She didn't say a word. She put her arms around me and hugged me. I thought it was just a quick hug so I let go, but she didn't. She just held me. I allowed myself to let go and just cry in her arms. That meant the world to me. She didn't ask if it was okay, she didn't apologize. She comforted me in a very sincere way. And since then, my trust and connection with her has only strengthened.