This was years ago......but I was finishing up my BS degree so I could graduate 10 months after my daughter was born. I couldn't be tied to her so breast feeding wasn't an option I was willing to even consider. I didn't want to deal with the nuisance of using a pump...not even sure they had things like that back in those days.

It was quite soon after she was born that I would do a midnight feeding of baby cereal that would stick to her ribs (& probably everything else it touched also).....but my daughter slept through the night because she never woke up hungry in the middle of the night. We both got our sleep when helped to keep both of us from being grumpy.

I also had friends from church or my parents who were more than willing to take care of her while I was going to my classes & doing the computer labs that were required for my degree.. It's important to have time for yourself & not make your whole life be about your baby.....you have to have a life or resentment starts to hit.

Of course....I have to admit....I never had any motherly instincts.....not something that is always naturally there for ALL women & I refused to feel guilty about it.....I had my degree & my career to focus on also. I loved my daughter....but she was definitely not my whole life. You can still love your baby & not have it be the all consuming thing in your life.