Some people suffer due to external factors beyond their control, while others suffer due to internal factors, stress, trauma, ill health. I think that some people are more vulnerable, at risk of suffering than others due to their disadvantaged background, environment, lifestyle, and character, sensitivity. You may hear people say that circumstances don't matter only little amount compared to our internal dialogue, circumstances people dont make us suffer, its not what others say or do to you that matters, its how you deal with that, most of human suffering is based on our own thoughts, attitude and responses to things, not others fault. Its easier to make individuals feel responsible for their own issues. But we are interconnected, interdependent, and we influence and have responsibility in how we are towards ourselves and each other with our judgements, expectations, principles, approaches, and behaviours for better or worse. People don't always have freedom to choose what, how they want to be, and to meet their own interests and needs. People do suffer without choice.