Above is partial quotes, and they are the parts I can't make heads or tails out of. Are you saying in the first partial quote that you gave him the blow job (that he filmed) because he had nude pics of you from a previous time, and threatened to send them to family and friends?

If I'm reading this correctly, then that means you already gave into his blackmailing tactics, and it was at that time that he filmed you in the act.

In the second partial quote, you implied that there was more, but, he deleted it. Or so he told you he deleted.

So, my concern here is that you've already given into his demands and I'm not sure why. Someone in here suggested that if you give into him, then it will only make matters worse, and I've a feeling that this is what has happened. And I'm not sure that (legally) he is at fault, entirely. So, you may not have the legal recourse that would be hoped.

I'm also not sure how successful you would be in continuing in a relationship with your husband now. It could be that you find a way to out-smart this guy and win, so that your husband never finds out. But, what about your honor? What about you having to live within a marriage, hiding the feelings of guilt? That cannot be good for your mental and emotional health for you, and your family. Intense feelings of guilt can lead a person to great despair, and it seems impossible to avoid these repercussions.

There seems to be a place for growth here, and that's always a good thing. I truly understand your plight in that you feel so betrayed, and that your lover tricked you. But, things happen for a reason. And I believe that this is a trial for you, to show you that actions have consequences that can sometimes spiral out of our control.

I'm not sure I totally agree that going to the police should be the first course of action. Perhaps, you should first see a professional to help you sort out where/how to deal with this kind of mess.

I truly hope you find a solution, mainly for the sake of everyone's mental and emotional well being.