Hello again Mkrylataya, Ive been thinking about your post, I really don't know what kind of advice I can give, seeing that I'm pretty much in the same boat. I feel stuck too. So what I can say is that I know what your going through, and I feel your pain.

My man doesn't go around doing drugs and getting arrested (anymore) but he is an alcoholic. The things everyone tells me is "life is too short to live this way" "you have to do what is right for you" but it is so hard when they won't LEAVE!

I'm not sure how much of a help I can be, but vent away! Sometimes that alone can make you feel better, even if you don't find a resolution. But, we are stuck, and I hope one day we find ourselves un-stuck and happy.