My mom beat me and was verbally abusive her I feared. My dad would spank me and I NEVER feared him. He was consistent and I knew what the rules were. If I didn't want to get spanked then I didn't act a fool.

My brother and I discussed it once because one of my friends made that ridiculous statement that spanking teaches children to hit Dogs don't have to be taught to bite and people don't have to be taught to hit. But we discussed spanking and he said "You know it never really hurt when you spanked me. What got through is that you were so disappointed that you spanked me. Also what if the next spanking did hurt?? I just knew I needed to straighten out." Well I started laughing because I told him it was the same for me. Dad never spanked hard enough that it actually hurt. It was just that for some reason it got through where him simply saying I'm disappointed didn't.