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Originally Posted by rainbow8
My t once asked me how I interact with the other professionals in my life. That sent me on a downward spiral and discussions about whether she cares about me or if I am just her job. Finally I realize that I can be her job AND she can care about me deeply. She is a professional but that doesn't mean she can't "send me love." She hasn't compared herself to my tax accountant for a long, long time.
I think what your T said is hurtful and harmful. Technically, therapy IS a business relationship but those words don't do it justice. Therapy is SO much more than that! Are you sure he doesn't care for you even though he used those words? I don't think ts understand how different we view the therapeutic relationship from the way they do! I hope you can talk more about his word choice and clarify what he meant.  |
Thanks, I can understand your experience. I don't know, him saying that made me question if he cares, prior to that I thought he did. I never doubted he did actually. Sometimes though I feel like he pushes me away, almost like he tries to make me angry or say things to upset me. He followed his "business relationship" by self-disclosing about a woman he's dating. I always thought he was dating someone, but of course hearing about it brings a sting of jealousy as well. The funny thing is it seems impossible for me to be angry with him. I want him to date people and be happy and sleep with hot women. I think "business relationship" hurt more then imaging him with someone else. I don't know if this is transference or just because I love him and he really hasn't done anything bad to me...