Maybe you could ask?

I know therapy is about analyzation and yet at the same time, they're very human. I mean, I say thoughtless things to my husband (or other people in my life) - whether it be that I didn't communicate an idea very clearly or I just wasn't on the wavelength and it doesn't mean I don't care about them.

One comment that doesn't seem to have much context I don't think says anything about how he feels. I'd need more information to know and I guess that's where I'd encourage you to ask, "So, hey, what did you mean by this?"

I've flat out called my T on things he's said. I tried twice to get his direct extension and he did what felt like a side step. I finally was like, "What the crap dude? Can you just tell me you don't want to give me your extension?" and he just blinked and was like, "What? I give everyone my extension it's ######" and he was like, "I probably just got side tracked by something."

I also have the tendency to misinterpret his expressions as disappointment because of issues in my life where I think all the people are disappointed in me. I've had to learn that "the look" is actually him being concerned :P