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Dec 08, 2014, 02:26 AM
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Originally Posted by janus2014
Sorry to hear that your friend treated you like that. Letting you down about your cats? That would have made me quit that friendship, for sure! And yes, I did tell my ex friend many times, that I needed lots of down time after socializing. Because of my physical limitations, I would get exhausted and need to rest for a couple of days before being social again. She chose to ignore that and continue to pressure me to hang out with her. Her teen aged daughter even urged her to let me alone so that I could adjust to my wonderful new romance. I mean, I can be pretty clueless about certain social constructs, but she really amazed me when she seemed to be wanting me to put my new boyfriend off, in order to hang out with her. And when I did make special time for her, she would complain that I seemed different, and repeatedly ask if I was mad at her! It was as if she resented me for being in love.  |
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Thanks. I just wish I could figure out why she'd do such a cruel thing to me for no apparent reason at all. There is NO way in hell that I'd ever talk to her again! The only exception would be IF she was involved in an accident and is still in the hospital. I doubt that is the case though.
I just have a bad feeling in my gut that she did this to spite me and push me away for good. She talked about moving in the next 5 years and I'm sure that she would've made zero effort to keep in touch with me as she has not initiated any get togethers since she met her current b.f, ugh!
As for your friend, wow, she sure is pushy! It sounds like she doesn't really have any one else to hang out with! Can you introduce her to other friends or suggest that she go to some meetup.com groups? She sounds like a very needy and clingy person. Keep on establishing firm boundaries with her and let her know that you need some space for now.
Maybe she has issue with friends leaving her once they get a b.f. Let her know that you still value her as a friend and maybe meet her for a quick coffee once in awhile if you're up for it. Don't let her make you feel guilty about anything. Some people just have a poor sense of boundaries.
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