I know exactly how people with BPD are treated, it was my former diagnosis but I didn't fit so they made it PD-NOS although that didn't make things better.

The doc I had was extremely callous, everything I could ever say about how I felt (I had a lot of depression at the time) was ignored because i should not be given attention for negative things. It meant she toyed with my life because I was never allowed to feel bad. If I asked for help she was like "Knock it off". After it came out I had Asperger's instead, ALL that crappy attitude was gone from her! I was suddenly ALLOWED to have feelings. But after that diagnosis she treated me like a child to pat on its head because I was stupid instead.

Can't win. LOL.