DrSkipper,
I'm sure if I read all of your posts I could get an idea of your age or physical situation, but sadly I didn't. However, I truly do understand what you are going through even though I am a man. I too have problems with orgasms. Sometimes I can't ejaculate at all, and sometime I ejaculate WITHOUT an orgasm. Talk about being disappointed. I have lost the feeling in my penis due to a back injury and sexual activity is no where as pleasurable as it was, and from my previous statement, there is no guarantee of a satisfying result.

However, I have been married for almost two decades, have two "grown" kids and my wife I have a sex about 3-5 times a year. So what I have learned is that I can be intimate and have sex without the expectation of an orgasm. I know that women in general are faced with this more often than men, but it is a mindset that I have HAD to accept. I don't feel the penetration, or the feeling of my wife's vagina, or potentially even the orgasm. So why try? Well, I just do and one of the best instances of sex in our relationship happened after I accepted this...I just went on for a long time...pleasuring my wife...until she was satisfied...just like in "the movies".

I'm saying all this to let you know that one doesn't have to orgasm to be intimate and have sex. There is no good reason to get overly down over this...I did and I avoided sex for almost 9 months. I was the one that lost out.

I hope this helps.