My therapists only made me feel worse.

I don't believe a therapist-client relationship exempts a therapist from basic human courtesy. I'd be angry if a friend or associate talked to me like you describe.

I dislike anyone who labels me. What good does that do? We're either rule followers or we're oppositional, so something is wrong with us either way. They should not put us in the position of having to defend ourselves.

How is it therapeutic to fixate on results of a test from 40 years ago. That sounds carping.
The client is the boss.