I actually am not too different from you except as a teen I was very attached to my psychiatrist/T. But I saw her during an important developmental stage - from when I was 11 until 21. So I think there's bound to be an attachment. She was a mother figure and the only adult I really shared anything with and who seemed to get me. I don't think I idealized her however. I knew she had her own family and saw pictures her children. There was never any fantasy on my part or any desire to be part of her real life.

As an adult I haven't really had the same experience though I've seen therapists and doctors that I have liked. Yes, I'm attached to my psychiatrist but I am pretty aware it is straight up attraction only made stronger by the fact that he is hot, kind, listens well and that I started seeing him right after my H left me. I've had multiple other not so hot male T's and pdocs that have also been kind and listened to me. I liked them enough, but always in a neutral way. Once I left their office I never gave them a second thought.

I am able to like Ts and do like my current female T very much, but I like her. We are similar and clicked right away - she is probably someone I could be friends with. Still, I rarely ever think of her outside her office. So in that respect I don't identify with the strong "love" so many other posters feel for their T's. I can understand the reasons behind the feelings, but I can't say I've had it to the level of intensity so many other posters have.