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Dec 08, 2014, 01:23 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 36
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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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As for your friend, wow, she sure is pushy! It sounds like she doesn't really have any one else to hang out with! Can you introduce her to other friends or suggest that she go to some meetup.com groups? She sounds like a very needy and clingy person. Keep on establishing firm boundaries with her and let her know that you need some space for now.
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Well, as I said before, she is now officially an ex friend. We actually met at a meet up! She told the entire group that the only reason she was there was because her then teenaged daughter had strongly encouraged her to get out and meet people. Then, after we had met and made friends, she quit going to meet ups, saying that now that she had made a friend she didn't need to go. I encouraged her to keep going anyway but she seemed to always manage to get into a quarrel with someone there. Believe me, I really tried hard to keep the friendship going but her poor boundaries, her low self esteem, her needing constant reassurance that I was still her friend while I was dating my boyfriend made her high maintenance. And I suspect that deep inside she was jealous and trying to sabotage my new relationship. Suffice it to say she became someone whose company I could no longer enjoy.  to reply to your comment below, I even tried meeting her for lunch once a month but she kept harping on how we hardly spent time together anymore, how different I was, blah blah.
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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
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Maybe she has issue with friends leaving her once they get a b.f. Let her know that you still value her as a friend and maybe meet her for a quick coffee once in awhile if you're up for it. Don't let her make you feel guilty about anything. Some people just have a poor sense of boundaries.
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