Raindropvampire,

Your mother should have spent quality caring time with you instead of beating and verbally abusing you.

Children can behave badly, yes and can be a challenge. However, answering that with hitting and verberally putting them down is not the answer. It is important to use the mind instead and communicate and have a structure that rewards good behavior.

I spanked my daughter once when she was three and I absolutely hated it, I hated how I felt too. I decided in my home there would be "no" hitting and I did use a naughty spot.
Years later I watched the program called "the nanny" where she too used the naughty spot and she NEVER HIT and also showed the parents how to get more "structure" in their home and also spend more "quality" time with the children, it "does" work. I was glad I saw that because that is exactly what I did myself.