It is off-putting for me if someone asks for help and then seems upset with me about what I offer. I fully believe I could be wrong about what kind of help is needed (in my view - perhaps the nail is not the problem even if I think it is - I could be wrong about that part) but becoming testy because I did not give the right help is annoying. Say thanks and go ask someone else is how I try to handle it IF I have been careless enough to ask for help.

I almost never ask for advice or help about me specifically because the wrong kind really does piss me off - so I understand why someone would get pissy about the wrong advice. I often, on this site, am given advice I don't want or need even where I specifically say it is not what I am looking for. I have even had to tell the therapist I am not looking for her advice - I just wanted to tell someone about it. Also, I might well want to change, but differently than the advice giver's way of doing it.
But that is different from when someone posts "please give me advice" and then gets pissy (I do think pissy is different from simply rejecting the advice).