Hello everyone,

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 months now and have known each other for well over a year. Throughout this time parts of her past have come up. Although I do not have her full story, I do have enough of it to realize I am not sure how to help.

My girlfriend had a rough childhood. Both her parents were abusive. Her mother beat her and pretty much neglected her. Her mother no longer talks to her.
Her father is the devil hiding in the body of a man. Beating her was the kinder of his evils. He raped her (repeatedly from what I understand) and forced her older brother to rape her as well. He took her to bars and strip clubs when she was younger (less than 14 years old). He is currently in jail (I don't know why) and he calls all the time to talk to her step-mom. Sometimes when he calls she talks to him (I don't understand why).

I wish more than anything in the world that I could change her past, just take away her pain. I'd trade places with her in a heart beat if given the chance.
Sadly I can't.

Since our relationship has become much more serious, sex has recently been brought up.
We were about to have sex today when she began to pull away. I asked her what was wrong and she explained that, because of what her dad did to her, she is uncomfortable with sex. I felt a little guilty because I thought I had pushed her too far. I told her that she needed to talked to me about this stuff and tell me if I accidently push too far. She agreed, but I'm not sure she will talk to me.

I have never been in her situation and I don't know what she's going through. I really want to be able to help her in some way. And I'm not sure if what I told her today will help or not

Some advice would be so helpful right now.

Thank you,
Shelly