I have the same problem, but for me, it hurts too much to continue anything long enough for me to orgasm (and I mean everything…not just different forms of penetration). I guess I can orgasm on my own at the moment, but I've had times where I couldn't then either. I didn't do anything in particular to start having orgasms again…they just suddenly happened. I think this is an all too common experience…I would be surprised if most women have orgasms at all ever and I absolutely don't think it's possible with a partner (especially a guy).