I dread talking about this in therapy. Maybe that's because of my particular style of attachment which T would describe as 'insecure avoidant'.

But, for the first time this week, I allowed myself to talk about the 'we' in therapy, I owned up to using T in difficult situations as a Secure base, imagining her solid stance when I was in a difficult situation.

It's very scary talking about stuff like this for me. I guess because I expect rejection or worse, ridicule for ooening up.