Good distinction Trippin2.0. Now what would you say those two people have in common? Recent statistics show many abusers in Australia are heavy drinkers and are often under the influence of alcohol when they are physically abusing their partners which is no surprise since I grew up with an alcoholic abusive father who regularly abused me, my Sister and my Mother. Was it his poor decision making skills that caused him to drink even when he knew what he did to us when he was drunk and would apologise to my Mother every morning or was he cold and calculating and following some type of pattern?