This is pretty much where we're at. We joke about my husband being "ready when you are" and he understands my meds totally knock out my sex drive.

For me, sex is a sign of how much I care for him and am thankful that he has stayed with me. I try to initiate more than I really want to, and usually always end up enjoying it because he cares for my needs first.

I'm not a fan of "faking it" but there are lots of reasons to have sex, just one of them for me is saying thank you for staying with me. Sometimes it is a stress reliever for him. I try to recognize his needs and initiate even if I don't feel like it so much. It's part of my love for him.

He has adjusted to this, I guess he takes care of his own needs in the shower if I'm not in the mood. Never asked.