1. the attraction of two people is chemical, called pheromones. people cannot (think) themselves into soul mate status ... they literally have to sniff their way to this status.

2. if a person cheats on another to be with you, then they will cheat on you to be with another. if this man is an emotional cheater, then this is in his moral makeup to do so, and so the next interesting person that comes along, he won't bat an eye to engage.

3. considering he is still with his wife, this means that she is his main woman. She is the one with a ring on it. That means you are disposable. If this man isn't coming across the big pond to come get you to be his, then that means he's not interested in "love"

4. there is a woman who is being used and abused, her name is "wife". when all of this is said and done, to whatever end it comes to - she is the one who will be emotionally harmed. so the question is: can you cope with being the abuser?

I would like to know why you only talk about what he wants. You say you want input, but, you never mention what YOU want or need. You only talk about what he wants/needs.

How can anyone provide you with sound and rational input if we don't know what you want, feel and need?