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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA
I try to remind myself that I'm not my T's first rodeo. He's dealt with lots of clients with lots of diagnoses. It is a level of trust. Maybe it's something you can say if it happens. "I really liked the response you gave me here and now I really want that response again and I feel like I'm trying to get you to give it to me."
In DBT we learn that calling a feeling a feeling or a thought a thought can often times give us some level of power over it. If I say "I feel the feeling of anger." It's no longer an identifier. I am not the anger. I feel the anger and it is not my identity.
I think you can do the same thing with where you are. Worth trying maybe? Or just keep talking about it with your T, give her a chance to reassure you multiple times because I still need lots of reassurance.
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Maybe the thing is that I know my T
doesn't have like 30 years of experience dealing with difficult clients, so it's conceivable that my issues might be too much for her...maybe I underestimate her (or overestimate myself). I've manipulated much older and more experienced Ts in the past...and it's really easy for me to say
now that if I was manipulating her I would tell her, but when I'm in that moment and feeling very gratified by attention/care/something, I know I probably wouldn't...perhaps this is just an irrational fear though...