Patagonia,

I understand exactly what you mean by having parts of yourself that feel different ways. I have DDNOS, so I get that. However, it sounds to me like you are putting your t in a no-win situation. You said that you have told her that you feel horrible for having cheated on your husband, and you asked for her help to stop doing it. But when your t then encourages you not to cheat, you get mad at her and feel judged.