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Originally Posted by Mid-Life-Larry
The 45yo prob has kids, surely has baggage, and more than likely the beginning stages of arthritis. I don't think it's right to burden a young 20yo child with ALL the middle age crap that comes by default. The 20yo has a whole life-time ahead of him/her..... To me, it's like using power and position to gain the upper hand on a inexperienced or infatuated person.
I do believe however, once both parties are OVER 40, for example, a relationship in which the man is 60 and the woman is 40 or vice-a-versa... is perfectly ok. -- no innocence loss.
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So you are basing it all on false assumptions.
1. No, not every 45 year old has children. It is pretty common these days for people to choose not to have children. But many people in their 20s have children too. Are you suggesting that it is wrong for these people to date childless people their own age?
2. Many people have "baggage" by the time they are in their 20s and it is entirely possible that the 20 year old has more than the 45 year old. Not every older person is more experienced than younger people. I am 26 and my 18 year old brother is way more experienced than me.
3. Loss of innocence?? You're kidding right? You're talking as if a date with an older person is a traumatic experience. Of course, I know you are just talking about when men date younger women and you would probably not say that in reference to a 20 year old guy hooking up with an older woman. This attitude is typical in our society, but is not based on any facts.
4. How is arthritis relevant in any way? Are you suggesting that young people should avoid people their own age with health problems as well?
5. Both parties over 40? Really?? So you even think that a 45 year old man dating a 35 year old woman is wrong?
6. Can you HONESTLY tell me that you feel the exact same way about both older men dating young women and older women dating young men?