Now this is interesting because my sex life with my husband improved after I began therapy. Why is that? Hmmm Is it this erotic transference thing?

As i said in the other thread, I can't bring myself to discuss this, not at this stage of my therapy anyway. I think you are further along than I am and I say, if you feel you can, go for it! This idea of a baby's merger with it's mother sounds dead on, so why don't you approach it with your T from that angle....asking her about how that is reflected in an adult relationship? Maybe then she will bring it up first and you can discuss it without blurting out your innermost secrets!

Yes, so many questions....