I dont think its exactly erotic transference I am having. I don't think about sex with T before I have engaged in the act with my husband. Its more a feeling of total love. That moment where you have just shared something so intimate and close. I do not feel I want to "jump" on T or grab her %#@&#! or anything like that, so I feel I will be able to talk about this tomorrow with her. I will say that during the love making with my husband I also felt intimately connected with her or rather that I wanted it to be with her also, that same amount of closeness. So erotic? Nah not my understanding of erotic anyway.