Sister, I guess for me its because all my life has been in fantasy. I even prefered "solo" sex because I was driven by fantasys, now those fantasys no longer work for me, so "real" life is entering my life and I can find comfort from reality more than fantasy. My fantasys kept me safe, kept me from needing anyone, now I am begining to allow myself to feel for my husband not so afraid that I will be abandoned and actually choosing to enjoy love making with him. I'd never known what real love making meant before, it for me was a mechanical thing that one just "did". Now it has so much more attached to it. I guess its because i'm maturing emotionally because of therapy.