Make perfect sense to me. That's why I am no longer in therapy :-) and I doubt I will ever be as long as it's being done the way it's been done so far and not how I want it to be done.

It sounds like you want therapy to be done similarly to how I would want it, but I define it differently. In my book, I call it "presence" not "support". I would need the therapist to be very present in the room with me, my story, my state of mind, my hopes, desires, fears, aspirations etc. This presence would include many things: careful listening and trying to understand me on my terms while at the same time sharing his/her (the therapist's) honest feedback on how he/she sees me and my situation so I would get some alternative vision and not be stuck in my own inner world. It would also include kindness and respect for me and also a healthy distance. While I want the therapist to understand my pain and to empathize with me, I don't want them to get emotionally involved to the point that they will lose objectivity so their ability to hold their emotional balance and a certain distance is paramount to me.

"Support" to me is something different. It's more about comforting and making me feel better. While occasional support from the therapist certainly wouldn't hurt, especially when I am in crisis, I would NEVER go to therapy primarily for support. Support is something I prefer to get from friends on a regular basis, not from a therapist. The idea of paying for something that is one of the fundamental blocks of humanity such as support sounds disgusting to me. If we want to keep our humanity, giving and receiving support should never become a "service" for which you have to pay. By the way, I did have a therapist who gave me nothing but support and admiration, and, as good as it felt at the time, the result was disastrous. I was traumatized as a result and was in NO WAY in control of my therapy.

So, yeah, I get what you are saying. It makes perfect sense to me. It just seems like we define it differently. You call it "support", and I call it "presence". In any case, if we are talking about the same thing, good luck getting it from any therapist :-). It's contrary to their training, so I doubt you'll get it from any of them. As I said, I got disillusioned in the ways therapy is conducted and when I realized that I wouldn't get anything different, I gave up on therapy all together.