Thanks for the reply. It does help. I will definitely bring it up to her that I would like to discuss honesty and both of our stances on it in more depth. I'm certain that we had this conversation in the past and we were both on the same page - honesty is the best policy!

I recall I mentioned to her that the person having the affair would have to live with it and if it were me the guilt would be hard to handle and unbelievably hard to bear alone. She replied with she would have to live with it anyway why make it so both parties have to deal with it?
then we talked a minute or two on how the trust would be gone completely ( and rightfully so I may add ) and would take years to get back. She's right on that one though. It would take years to recoup trust after something like an affair.

It kind of hurt when she changed the subject so quick - but I'll make another attempt to talk about trust - not necessarily on the topic of an affair but how we both stand and hopefully why we have that stance.