This is an excellent question and I am glad you brought it up. Here is my take on it and the answer for me is 'yes' and 'no'. Once an anxious episode begins for me, snapping out of it quickly just isn't possible although I have learned some ways to make it dissipate quicker than it used to. However, being overly invested in owning the label of 'anxiety' or 'anxiety disorder' doesn't help either - I am so much more than someone who gets anxious and I don't want to lose sight of that.

In relation to your family's response to your anxiety, I leaned too heavily on my family years ago when my anxiety was not well-controlled and I learned that even the people who love me don't want to hear my issues on a regular basis. They want the best for me and they want me to be happy and healthy. So for me part of 'growing up', as your family puts it, was sucking it up sometimes, getting counseling where I could vent in a place that didn't upset others, and doing the work to overcome the anxiety issue as best I could.