Not sure I have all of what you want here, but my T doesn't lather on advice and I'm happy about that. We've even discussed his lack of instructions and homework for me, deciding I'm past needing that. I'm more than capable of making my own life decisions, sometimes I ask his opinion, but otherwise he is more of a moral support/ emotional dumping pit. I agree with you though, I want to know his personal feelings about me, about our relationship, about how I'm conducting my life. Sometimes he shares them, but I know he holds things back. For example, I don't know how he reacts to my attraction to him, I wonder if he shares my feelings about that... I don't think he will ever say. He's said I don't make him uncomfortable, and I have a gut feeling that's not true . I suppose what it seems like is he shares his positive feelings (shy of saying he's attracted to me) but withholds any negative, which I'm sure there must be.