I'm so thankful I found this, I was hoping PC would have one. I am in psychotherapy, and have been since May. I have a lot of issues to try to resolve, but what ultimately brought me to therapy was the fact that I don't want to be married to my husband anymore. He is not an active father in our son's life....he's pretty much turned off. To everything. He's not a bad guy, he's just "not here." And he makes bad financial decisions. We are struggling financially. But he doesn't LIVE like we are. What brought me into therapy was him, taking out an 18K loan, behind my back. I found out the week of closing, when the credit union called two days before needing more info before the closing in two days. He also listed assets that belong to my family, not us. This is not the first time he's done something like this, last year it was a $4K TV that he ordered and I made him cancel once he told me. I'm just lost. We have been sleeping in separate rooms for over a year. We have a young teenage son. I'm lost. I feel alienated in my own home. And I wait for the next ball to drop. He is secretive. He's always on his laptop, while sitting in front of the computer, and I woke up from a nap earlier this week, walked out, and he quickly hit the X to shut a page on the computer. I looked right at him and said "you know, it drives me nuts whenever I walk into a room and you quickly shut down a screen so you dn't get caught." I didn't say any more. I care about him ad always will. I just can't be financially tied to him any longer. But I don't have the nerve...... I'm lost. It hurts... and I'm not self sufficient, so feel like I'm using him by keeping him around.