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Originally Posted by Cheatedon
So my username came from my first thought when I signed up because for that reason I was here and honestly I did not expect any responses that were beyond "I am sorry this happened to you" or "leave his cheating ***" or "once a cheater, always a cheater." Responses I have read on many many other forums. I didn't truly expect to have an account here very long. If I went with an animal, such as yourself, it would probably be a squirrel. I run around all day at work, I can't sit still when I am home, and I too like to store my nuts. I became a couponer when my husband was out of work. Seeing my pantry full and knowing I saved money makes me happy  |
I love that feeling, too, and, love squirrels.
"I am sorry this happened to you" and "once a cheater, always a cheater" are all
noise. Such responses have no meaning and add no value, and are a waste of both your time and the time of people who write such platitudes. When a T speaks in platitudes, it is being self-serving - she gets money for doing no work and gets away with it. It is not cool and is not a noble way to make a living, but it is not a waste of time for the T, as she gets paid. But for you, why would you waste your time reading platitudes on multiple forums? As a squirrel, you have a well organized pantry and are rationally frugal with your money... so why are you not equally frugal and rational with your time?
I am glad that you came on here and that your conversations with Open Eyes have uncovered really deep issues. That is so much more useful than getting more... how should I say... "canned responses".
If you were having a problem with a product or service and wrote to the manufacturer or service provider, and they would respond with "we are so sorry this has happened to you and we have your best interest at heart and our customers mean so much for us and we are committed to the highest standards of customer care and always interested in hearing feedback and striving to be our best"...
... you'd be annoyed that they wasted your time and did not do anything to actually troubleshoot or problem-solve with you.
This analogy is not perfect, because forum members did not manufacture your husband, but it provides enough of a similarity. Problem-solving, different takes and angles, a more objective view of an outsider, or a more subjective account of somebody who has been in your shoes... those things are what is valuable;
"so sorry this happened" is not a staple that belongs in your pantry.