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Originally Posted by MindfulMoment
Thanks ididitmyway, I've got a long holiday break away from T now so that should give me some time to decide whether I want to disclose and explore. I certainly don't want to waste my time in therapy, I've told myself that I'm going to try and get the maximum benefit from it this time round. I have spoken about things with her that I've never discussed with anyone eles, even close friends and so I do trust her, though I don't know if I could stand how vulnerable I'd feel if I brought this stuff up. I don't want her to feel that it's a big deal, she has a tendancy to show real emotion when I talk about some of the things which have happened to me and I don't feel that way about them, yeah they're not great, but everyone has a sob story and I refuse to be looked at like a victim if I can control that.
Thank you for your words they've been very helpful. x
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You are most welcome
You are not a victim no matter what your history was. Our victimhood is not defined by how much abuse we have experienced. It's defined by whether we are committed to healing the trauma and turning our life around. Having been victimized doesn't mean you should or you will live your life like a victim. Those who live like victims never take responsibility for anything. They are incapable of any self-reflection and self-awareness. They don't want to own their issues and project them on others instead. If you encounter someone who never says that they regret something they've done or acknowledge their mistakes, THAT's a victim. You certainly don't sound like one.