Therapy isn't a 1-sided deal. It is pretty hard to help accomplish something with a person if you don't talk much. It's good that you tried the training she suggested, but not finding one little, teeny, tiny thing at all that you liked must have been frustrating for T and for you, because now what? The two of you, especially you, need to give T more guidance to work with. It's like asking a carpenter to build you a house with no blueprints or building materials. You'd never do that. Give T something to work with.